As part of my morning routine like many other people out there now I read the blogs that I follow, I actually only have about 5 so it doesn't take too long.
Many I read make me think and are thought provoking . . .this morning I wanted to share a post that Mandy had written on her blog http://www.harpershappenings.com/ to sum it up she writes about balance and trying to fit so much in to her day but still going to bed feeling disapointed and like she has disapointed others in her life.
How many of us out there feel like that? I bet most people do . . . .I did before I had a child and I do now, my comment to her was:
Thank you for blogging, since finding your blog about 1 mth ago now you are part of my morning routine when I get to work in the morning.
Like many of the ladies and perhaps gentleman that have read this I can sympathise . . .and could have written your post myself.
I go to bed most nights annoyed at myself for not going to bed sooner, but by the time I get JB down to his cot and do a few things around the house and maybe managed to watch a show the hours have ticked passed.
I work full time, I am a fulltime single Mum by choice (on my own concieved through a donor) and I like to still get out ocasionally to see friends etc . .
I was forced last year to really assess how much I let other people's comments or views about me affect my life and decided that life is too short and the days to short to let that affect me . . .I am doing the best I can for my child and for myself other people aren't me and they aren't living my life!
Its true how much time do we waste thinking about what others think about us? I can honestly say that I spend less time thinking about it now then I used to and I think I have motherhood to thank for that.
It seems everyone has an opinion on how you should be raising your child . . .what you are doing wrong and how they did it or their relative/friend/mum did it and "it worked for them so it should work for you"
I had to learn pretty quickly that I have to do whats right for me and whats right for my child . . . .he is a happy, healthy social little boy who enjoys interacting with others both adults and children, so I can't be doing it all wrong!
The other part that made me think was how much we seem to want to squeeze into the days now, we want to work, we want to care for our child and spouse, we want a clean house, meals, time for friends and socialising etc . . . .I think the thing we seem to skip out on is time for ourselves.
Sad but so true isn't it, how many of us would try and fit in cleaning the house or doing that load of washing rather then sitting down to read a book or watch some mindless tv?
Thanks for reading my thoughts for today, I hope its made you think.
Love to All
1 comment:
hi Cara,
Thought I would leave a comment for you!
It has been so nice to read all your though since your blog began and its been lik a catch up for me since I haven't seen you for sooooo long. You sound like you have a good life and are a good mum. It is true that ppl try to make their own input as to how to raise a child but ultimately it is your choice. Its great to listen to ppl's advice but our choice whether to follow though with that advice and our right as mums not to be judged onwhat is right or wrong.
I have just opened my skate shop and I leave everyday at 2pm to ge my kids from school and bring them back to the shop. Others say they should go to after school care and its not fair for the kids to have to sit in a shop for 2hrs. The way I see it is at least I am spending time with my kids whether it be in shop, at home or at the park. so bugger off everyone lol I think I am ding good and by the sounds of it you are too!!
Leanne Grant
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